Ar-Rumaisa bt Milhan.. anda kenal?

Sudah sekian ramainya yang mengagumi Saidatina Khadijah radiallahu anha kerana pengorbanannya, mahupun Aisyah r.a. atas kecerdasannya atau Nusaybah r.a. atas keperwiraannya. Aku mengagumi kesemua mereka. Namun jiwaku lebih terusik dengan satu sosok yang lain.

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Namanya Ar-Rumaisa bt Milhan.



Juga dikenali sebagai Ummu Sulaym. Walaupun sebelum kedatangan Islam ke Madinah, Rumaisa sudah dikenali kerana perwatakannya yang baik, kebijaksanaannya, dihiasi pula dengan kecantikannya dan pemikirannya yang luas dan tersendiri. Tidak hairanlah kelebihannya ini mendorong sepupunya, Malik b Nadhir untuk menikahinya dan beliau kemudiannya melahirkan Anas bin Malik radiallahu anhu, seorang sahabat baginda Rasulullah yang terkenal.

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Apabila cahaya Islam mula terbit, orang-orang yang sihat akal & lurus fitrahnya bersegera memeluk Islam. Umm Sulaym termasuk di kalangan orang-orang pertama dari kalangan Ansar yang menerima dakwah ini daripada Mus’ab bin Umair, utusan Rasulullah yang pertama untuk berdakwah ke Madinah. Umm Sulaym juga adalah salah seorang dari 3 wanita yang terlibat dalam Perjanjian Aqabah II.

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Yakin

Halangan besar yang pertama buat dirinya adalah kemarahan suaminya, Malik bin Nadhir. Malik yang baru pulang dari permusafiran amat terkejut dan baran dgn keislaman Umm Sulaym. Malik berkata dengan kemarahan yang memuncak,

“Apakah engkau murtad dari agamamu?!”

Tanpa gugup Umm Sulaym menjawab, “Tidak, bahkan aku telah beriman.”

Lagi-lagi menambahkan kemarahan Malik adalah tindakan Umm Sulaym yang ketika itu juga mengajarkan anaknya, Anas untuk bersyahadah. Anas yang masih kecil itu menurut ucapan ibunya, `Ashhadualla ilahaillAllah, wa ashhaduanna Muhammadar Rasulullah.`

“Jangan engkau merosakkan dia!“ tengking Malik.

“Aku sama sekali tidak merosakkan anakku.“ tegas Umm Sulaym. Malik kemudian meninggalkannya dan diceritakan telah dibunuh oleh musuhnya tidak lama selepas itu.

Tidak mungkin seorang perempuan yang ragu-ragu, lemah dan mudah terpengaruh akan mampu untuk berdiri dengan sabar, tenang & yakin seperti Umm Sulaym di hadapan suaminya, insan yang dicintai tetapi enggan menerima seruan dakwah Islam. Keimanan yang bukan ikut-ikutan, tetapi didasari kesedaran & kefahaman.

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Bonda mithali

Umm Sulaym kemudian menumpukan sepenuh tenaganya mendidik Anas. Dia bertekad untuk tidak berkahwin lagi, melainkan dipersetujui oleh Anas. Umm Sulaym menyerahkan Anas kepada Rasulullah saw untuk berkhidmat kpd baginda setiap masa. Beliau juga mengajar Anas supaya menjaga segala rahsia baginda, walaupun terhadap diri Umm Sulaym sendiri. Hasilnya, jadilah Anas bin Malik r.a seorang sahabat Rasulullah yang begitu arif dalam ilmu-ilmu islam dan sangat banyak meriwayat hadith. Apabila Anas pulang, beliau pasti menanyakan Anas apa yang dipelajarinya dari Rasulullah hari itu. Umm Sulaym…. pastilah dia bukan calang-calang ibu.

MAMA...

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."

2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
"Because I said so, that's why."

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."

16. My mother ! taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING.
"You are going to get it when you get home!"

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, They are going to freeze that way."

19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"

20. My mother taught me HUMOUR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?"

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."

25. And my favourite: my mother taught me about JUSTICE.
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!"

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind – Gandhi
I am nobody. Nobody is perfect. Therefore I am perfect. - Author Unknown
If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman. - Margaret Thatcher
The first law of dietetics seems to be: if it tastes good, it's bad for you. - Issac Asimov
To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. - Helen Rowland
We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing. - George Bernard Shaw
When women are depressed they either eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. - Elayne Boosler
You're only young once, but you can be immature forever. - Author Unknown
What's the difference between a man and E.T.? E.T. phoned home! - Author Unknown
Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve. - Mary Kay Ash
Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true. - Leon J. Suenes
In every person who comes near you look for what is good and strong; honor that; try to imitate it, and your faults will drop off like dead leaves when their time comes. - John Ruskin
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. - George Bernard Shaw
Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation, perspiration and inspiration. - Evan Esar
The beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a man of high and heroic temper. – Aristotle
You must learn day by day, year by year, to broaden your horizon. The more things you love, the more you are interested in, the more you enjoy, the more you are indignant about, the more you have left when anything happens. - Ethel Barrymore

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